It is no secret that everyone out there has some insecurities. Many times, we allow these insecurities to become our downfall. Most people, myself included, are always fixated on our insecurities, such as our weight, our obsessions, our love for a certain band, etc. because we are afraid that if we show others these unique pieces of ourselves to the world they will keep us from being accepted. We don’t think that we can be loved for our whole selves, so we dim the parts of us that are different to try and trick others into thinking that we are just like them. We hide the light within us, the light that sets us apart from one another.
I, myself, have allowed my body to be my insecurity in the past. Healing my relationship with my body has been quite a journey. As I have been recovering, my appearance has been changing. At first, these changes were more scary than I thought I could handle. I was afraid of what people would think, I was afraid that if I gained weight that I would no longer have friends, I was afraid that my life was going to fall apart. I thought it was my body that was bringing me happiness and a wonderful life. I thought that being small meant I would always be accepted. The truth, is exactly the latter. Allowing my body shape to be my source of happiness, and believing that it was why I was doing well in life, was a complete lie. In fact, fixating on trying to ‘fit-in’ and ‘be cool’ and be just like everyone else, despite the way you go about it, will only bring you misery. When you hid your true self, you are slowly ruining yourself. When I was at my smallest, I was also at my lowest point in life. I had lost many friends, relationships and many joys in life. Here I am today, working on rejecting the belief that it is my body that allows me to be worthy of happiness, and let me tell you something: I have never been happier, healthier, more full of life and energy in a long time. And the part about fitting in? I have restored more relationships than ever. By no longer fixating on what I thought would help me ‘fit-in’ and instead just focusing on who I truly am, I have found real joy.
According to Brene Brown, “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are…”. Practicing authenticity is how I have been healing my relationship with myself and learning to love who I truly am, and I believe that everyone needs to live out this word as well. This issue goes a lot deeper than you may think. It manifests in people in all sorts of ways. I used to be very insecure about my love for vegetables, about my interest in reading, about my sometimes strange sense of humor, my infatuation with learning, and I know that I do not stand alone in all of this. This is not just a personal struggle, this is an epidemic.
Beginning to practice living authentically, and embracing myself, instead of shutting myself off, has been a life-changer. I have been challenging my belief that I need to change my body and hide my identity because I am afraid that I may not be accepted. What is the point of trying to ‘fit-in’ and ‘be cool’ if it means risking your unique qualities? I do not know about you, but suppressing my gifts and talents, my personality, my quirkiness, and all the little unique parts about Serena just isn’t worth it for the sake of being accepted. I have come to the realization that I am worthy just as I am. The best part of this is that it didn’t just become true, it always has been true and always will be, despite what I or what anyone else thinks. I have been focusing on my personality, on my relationships, on my hobbies, on my love for animals, my enjoyment of baking, on reading new books, on eating food that I love, on working out to feel great, and so much more. I am focusing on all the pieces of myself that make up my whole, because that is who Serena is. I am embracing myself. I am living authentically. I am healing the years of damage that hiding these pieces of myself caused. I will no longer be ashamed of my true self, instead, I will love every part of me. It would be such a shame if we continued to hide our beautiful personalities out of fear. Thinking about how much more lively, exciting and interesting this world would be if each and every one of us let our lights shine freely with no judgment, no shame and no hatred, that world would be absolutely beautiful. So stop hiding yourself, no more being ashamed, it is time that you embrace who you are and love yourself to the fullest.
I hope you all enjoyed this insight and take it into consideration! I just wanted to let you guys know that big changes are finally happening! I have been updating this blog and working on it’s new focus! I will soon have a schedule for posts to be published on and have a specific type of post coming out on certain days! It is all going to be amazing and I truly hope you all enjoy it! Until next time!